At different points and times in my life, some of the people in my life, our relationship was up and down.
In many of my articles/posts, I only speak of a window of time, this period/timeframe/timeline, or that timeframe/timeline. Some post are not the complete picture.
I guess it's kinda similar to ads for movies. Small portions of events in life. But isn't all relationships. I feel being estranged isn't the answer, but it takes both sides. Even if you don't agree with each other, agree to disagree, and still go forward, continuing a relationship. I praise God for that. As we don't always have to agree. But they remain whatever type of family or friend in our life, and you love em, it's acceptance.
Sometimes it makes relationships stronger. Other times when you can't agree at all, just chalk it up to the past and make each new day going forward better. For it's better to love and be loved. We are humans and these relationships make us stronger, as long as you are not being harmed and can/are finding enjoyment/happiness/contintment.
Sometimes you have to realize on some things you will never agree with each other about, but it doesn't mean you can't make new memories with each other, it's called forgiveness.
For they are who they are and you are who you are. For some, I think they just can't face it, and they have to stay in denial. It doesn't mean quit loving and caring about them and interacting with them. For some, it may be the only way they can cope.
Life is an emotional rollercoaster enough anyway, just living day to day in the present going forward to the future.
You can still have a great relationship going forward with people you been at odds with in your past. Many prefer for people not to know certain things from their past and is all's right to pick and choose what they want to keep private and what not. It's each person's right to speak out or stay silent. For no person wants to be used over what they didn't know about their self that happen to them.
One prime example in my life was my witness protection program foster guardian Cynthia, everyone called her Cindy.
Some people stay in denial for whatever reason, I accepted that in my belief it was just to hard for her to accept how wrong she was decades ago. She was only 7.5 years older than me. I am sure to her she was doing and done the best she could.
We got along better the last 2+ decades or so, (as long as those topics didn't come up), than ever before. It was things neither of us could change. I loved her and she loved me.
As I am reading in a book right now, "90 Minutes In Heaven", their is a paragraph on page 143, I very much relate to for the most part. "I'm running out of time, I thought, but so is everyone else. I suppose I'm more concious of time than some people are for two reasons: First - I lost a big chunk of my life because of the accident. Second - I know we don't get to stay long on this earth. As many of the old hyms say, we're like strangers passing through. It's something we all know from reading the Bible and other books, but those realizations became a wake up call for me. "
I agree and understand and relate with most of this. I do not feel we are strangers to the one's whose ever been a part of our life, but he's looking at it from a different angle than I, we are allowed to love all.
As long as the relationship is not physically violent and no one's life is in danger or risk of severe bodily harm, relationships are salvageable to a new relationship. And you are in charge of making each better.
I have opened up and talked about small windows of time here and there of my life in my posts, short stories and poems. So am I holding back on some good and some bad, yes, for I intend to write an autobiography (or Co write) my autobiography soon. So I guess in a way it's kinda like ads to movies, to a degree. Life in many ways is like television soap operas, it was/is constantly revolving, it's called going forward.
Each day is a new day, don't ever close the door on the people in your life, and never give up hope. As long as you and your loved ones are not at risk for bodily harm or loss of life, keep an open mind and an open ❤️ heart. Love all of em you can for eternity. "All types of love is precious." Thanks be to Jesus, Amen.
Written by:
Deborah Kim Kennedy
"Debbie"
A.K.A.
Bouvier, Guffey, Garner, Colver, Hicks
December 8, 2022
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